Posts Tagged ‘dreams’

What the fog?!?

When a friend and I were preparing for a road trip recently, we realised we were going to spend most of the time driving in the dark because we procrastinated on a few things we needed to do. This wasn’t something we were too happy about, because we wanted to take the “scenic route”, so we were going to miss out on all those wonderful views along the way. The sun was setting as we began the journey, and within 20 minutes, we had to turn on the lights. We talked a little about what we were going to do when we arrived, he then said, “I wish the lights just made the whole journey clear!” And as always, this sparked a train of thought in my head.

He was complaining that because he couldn’t see the entire trip in one go, so that he knew what was coming and how to handle it ahead of time. Here he was being irritable that the lights on his car don’t show the amount of road ahead that he would like, yet, cars have been like this for….ever! In fact, most lights used for travel display some kind of limit in the distance that they shine. Yes, it doesn’t give you a full picture of what’s ahead, but I realised: it gives you enough! (more…)

This had BETTER work!

Have you ever had an idea/desire that just appears ridiculously impossible, or at the very least improbable? Or even just improper? I know I’ve had my fair share of those, and continue to have them. They’re always fun at first. They invade your mind, filling you with all these possibilities and feelings (the warm fuzzy type). In this stage you’re on top of the world and in some cases, you even add a little more bounce to your step! What a beautiful time…until a shocking and unexpected thought hits you: Wait…do I have to DO this? How the heck?


The easiest part of an idea, is having the idea! It just dawns upon you in a moment, with usually little to no effort expended. Sometimes it’s brilliant as it is, sometimes it grows as you think about it; sometimes it scares you, sometimes it uplifts you. Most times however, you leave it long enough, it will plague you with the question: So NOW what? Having the idea is fine, that’s a result of having a working mind! You should be grateful!

The second easiest part, is losing the idea! You heard it! Why? The problem with having an idea, is eventually you have to tell somebody… And that’s when the ‘fit hits the shan’. People rarely see things the way you do, or can fully grasp something that’s so real in your mind. I’m telling you, if you haven’t heard all the reasons why your idea will not make it in your head, then I’m sure somebody will be willing to tell you. Your memory is already against you here. Leaving an idea brewing, doesn’t actually brew it. Ideas don’t brew, they fizzle out. They only brew as you apply more focus, but otherwise, with all the activity you probably already take part in, you’ll lose it! Add the lovely ‘counter-questions’ from the people you may tell, and you have enough ammunition to obliterate any chance you have…

But that’s if you accept it!

My advice to battle negative comments, negative situations, negative possibilities, negative anything, is to DO IT ANYWAYS!!!

For an idea, there is nothing more benefitting, than action. Taking steps towards your desired reality. I have really fallen for the tricks before, and seen how doing it anyways has helped me get more progress and momentum under my belt. You owe it to yourself to do it anyways! After the joy of discovery, you can’t rob yourself of seeing this thing happen. It gives you even more energy to try things out, to look for ways of making it happen; all that’s stopping you is the gap between Conception and Birth!

Once a woman is pregnant, all she has to do is stay alive, like she always has. That baby inside her will grow whether she wants it to or not. How healthy the child is, will depend on her lifestyle (how you nurture your idea, how you get creative with it, what you believe when you think/hear it); yet even then there comes a time the baby has to come out of her! She can’t decide “Nah, I don’t feel like giving birth.” It has to happen. Yet we think somewhere that maybe our plan is stupid, or it’s impossible, or it doesn’t make economic sense, or it’s in a language we don’t understand (huh?)…and so we abort it!

Opposition from yourself or elsewhere is guaranteed. It’s a natural product of how we think: differently. So guess what, that opposition is not proof enough that you’ll fail. It’s just proof that people can exercise their opinion. Great for them.
Do it anyways!

There may be a thought that tells you some people will never accept the new proposal you’ve thought of for a business venture or a project. Guess what, you’re right! Some people will never accept it…and in fact, you’re doing them a favour by leaving that baby in your stomach, because then they don’t even have to disagree.
Do it anyways!

It is quite possible that your idea could really upset some of the systems you and those around you have grown used to. Well, I bet you those systems were old anyways, and you could have the answer that everyone wants to beat the repetitive boredom around them.
Do it anyways!

A legendary ice hockey player named Wayne Gretzky once said “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”! That is such a painful truth! You think you’ll be a loser for failure? Well a loser has done a lot more than the guy who didn’t even play the game! At least the loser tried!

Of course there is a lot of risk in doing something new. As we just read, the chance of missing the mark is 100% when you do nothing! What do you have to lose? Your reputation? If it’s a reputation you built by ‘playing it safe’, then it’s probably not one you’d inspire your children to achieve. Imagine saying “Son, aim for tree-trunks! Go all the way to the middle!
Not very invigorating is it?

Having ideas and doing nothing, is like taking a gun and finishing all your bullets on a target…then realizing your bullets were blanks! All the sound effects, none of the impact!



As the years wear on, it is interesting for me to note that all the people I look up to and respect are either dying, or disappearing under the guise of retirement. There are few inspirational figures left. I mean truly inspirational! There may be one or two coming up, but I really worry about the calibre of people we call the ‘influencers’ today.

This anxiety comes from a few factors governing our world today that affect our discovery and interaction with influencers, the main factor being technology. With the proliferation of the internet and its mutated social media ( Facebook, Twitter and blog sites), we are bombarded by the vast choice presented to us in the form of ‘new faces’. I call them ‘new’ because we didn’t see most of them in magazines, or in the news, we discovered them on the net! You could be reading this blog entirely because you stumbled across it, and not because I’ve made waves in the world of thought! I’m actually a ‘new face’ to many of my readership.

Seeing that the internet opens the doors to eyes, it must also give these eyes access to us ‘content providers’. The thing is these ‘content providers’/’new faces’ could be anyone, saying anything, and they will instantly have access to a potential of millions of ‘followers’! How many they actually  access is a combination of popularity and marketing.

As I said before, this is worrying me. Many people have a lot of junk to say, and they get in the way of those who have jewels to offer. That being said, this is also an opportunity, for I believe some who were hindered by needing to be seen on Oprah, can just open a WordPress account like me (hehehe…), and begin to articulate and showcase their offering to the world.

It could be you...

It could be you...

Tomorrow’s faces, are born out of today’s opportunities. If you can seize what is around you right now, you have almost no excuse to start impacting people. Definitely you’ll have to be good at articulating yourself, in a way that can be taken in by others; not only that but you’ll also have to have something worth reading/listening to capture people. (It’s nice to know through Twitter that your car has broken down. It is even better to see an inspiring thought worth remembering and earning the coveted “Retweet”!)

I believe when I have books out, I’ll be able to put barcodes in my references that link your cellphone to this website, to see what I meant in full. I may be years off from doing it, but I have determined that I WILL be a face of tomorrow. However, it starts now.

The opportunities you leverage today, will affect the life you live tomorrow. It is a simple equation with devastatingly beautiful results if you take advantage of it. You may not be a superstar now, but if you can take the little steps now, you’ll be surprised the kind of person you become in a year or two (yes, YEARS, no shortcuts unfortunately). For me, it was starting this blog, aiming to be consistent, taking criticism, hoping to make it to the front page one day…etc. I’ve started, and my idea of the mobile barcode references is just a little bit closer to a reality, because the technology exists, and I already have content! What have YOU got?

I have a sneaking suspicion that most people think that they will just wake up to the perfect spouse and with lots of money, but you only wake up to the effects of a choice you’ve made. If you choose to have a life that is a series of one-night stands, then you will keep waking up to things that have to walk out your door soon. They can’t stay, or last, or grow, and if they have babies, you will call them  ‘mistakes’! However, if you chose to have a life that was a series of strong choices and commitments, you’ll wake up to lasting change, lasting growth, lasting joy.

This is important if you want to be a Face with Substance! It is easy to do something that will grab attention, but hard to do something that grabs attention AND is worth holding onto! This becomes an issue of character, which can only be developed through choices that have persevered long enough to be a part of you. It’s about the heart.

So then I will say this: To be the Face of Tomorrow, you must have Tomorrow’s heart Today!! In other words, it starts now! There is much to be gained, but you only gain it through a journey, not through events. We hear of the events in powerful people’s lives, and end up waiting for something to happen, yet the reality is that there are processes that need to be in place for any event to be of significance. You must BE somebody before you can TOUCH somebody!

So to all my fellow Future Heroes and Faces of Tomorrow, work on your art now. Refuse to wait till a door opens, seize the opportunities at hand now, don’t wait for moments, create them!

The world awaits, but your life doesn’t!


Fear has a crippling effect on any individual. It can silence you immediately, and even permanently. On top of that, it has this strange ability to morph your entire reality into some hellish existence! I’m telling you, if Fear was an ‘X-men’ character, it would be the one that made you say “they have cool powers, but THAT guy freaks me out completely!” (actually I think there is a character named ‘Fear’ in the X-men! Glad its just a comic.) It can consume you so much that what you see is not what actually is. That’s a scary thought! For a bunch of people – maybe even you – the lives they’re experiencing are the product of their own fears!

The problem is that Fear is a great distractor! It’s the equivalent of that really hot looking guy/girl you see at the mall, who gets you dreaming of all the ‘possibilities’, then you realise you’ve wasted your time and missed about 100 more possible possibilities! How does Fear achieve this? It plays out all these scenarios of failure, falling, rejection, destruction or even death! Even though the last two are pretty similar, Fear makes them look different! You start defining in your imagination, just how bad it could get if you don’t pass, or say the right thing, or wear the right clothes, or make the right decision… You’re filled with all these ‘possibilities’, but none of them have any bearing on your life  right now. Fear blinds you to the biggest possibility you have in front of you: SUCCESS!

This is where Dreaming comes into play, as it also brings with it, ‘possibilities’. But these are of a different kind. Dreams paint the sort of pictures that fly in the face of failure, laughing out loudly (loling) as it fades into the horizon of reality. When I speak of Dreams, I speak of those desires in your heart that just excite you. That’s one of the cool things about them, they excite us, because they involve only us! You see, Fear brings in all these agents and ingredients that are all beyond your control (eg a person who doesn’t like you, or the environment you’re in), but a Dream, is ALL YOU! You being a success, you making the right decisions, you achieving your goals…everything in a Dream is determined by, and revolves around… you guessed it: YOU!

You make your success… You make the right choices… You unlock the potential within… You find the strength to make things happen! With a Dream, it’s all on you! Sure, there are relationships that help along the way, but only if you are in the right state of awareness. There will definitely be situations you have no control over that will affect you, but you have to make the right decisions about how you move forward. When you have a Dream, not even the hardships of life can excuse you! As bad as they can be, they only leave behind memories, not disasters!

Dreaming is quite daring, because life has so many loopholes to get through, unexpected turns, and even people who don’t like you. It’s daring because the world offers ample examples of people who want, but don’t get, those who desire, but don’t achieve. However, with all these facts, where would we be without Dreams? It was someone’s Dream to go to the moon. I mean, who dreamed up skinny jeans anyways? Everything we touch and use is someone’s Dream come true.

And there is the place many people fail to arrive: a Dream come true.

You have a responsibility to your Dream. Like a good parent, you need to nurture your Dream, allow it to grow. You even have to change things about yourself to accommodate this Dream. That isn’t easy, but it is necessary. Fear works against these processes of bringing a Dream to life, because if it’s a distractor, then it’s also a delayer. Sounds a lot like ‘Delilah’, you know…the chick from the Bible, who cut Samson’s hair, making him lose all his strength?? THAT Delilah! Watch out for that chick, cos she’s HOT! Fear will sap you of your energy, putting all your creative juices into failures and not successes. Your Dream requires focus, priority, forward thinking and flexibility. You’ll need to be in it for the long haul my friend. As you do what is necessary, your Dream rewards you, opening up doors, birthing relationships, and teaching you lessons. You mature as you grow in your Dream.

Mature Dreamers. Those are the ones whose Dreams come true! They may experience Fear, but don’t allow it to delay or distract them.

Those who fear, don’t dare!

I dare you!