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I’ve watched a few decisions being made by people I look up to. Some have shown great courage, others have shown great wisdom, and others that have shown great (bear with me here) ballslessness. Yep! I totally just came up with that word. It just felt cooler than saying “a lack of balls”, or “ball deficiency”, or “broken balls”. I think the last one must be extremely sad to behold. Plus I think you get the message.

It always amazes me at how easy it is for a leader to lose their ability to make a good decision for a team/organisation, and having been one for a while, I’m also not surprised. It’s familiar to me. I’ve dropped the ball (pun not intended) a few times and it was never fun seeing the results afterwards.

However, when I lost it, I was always aware that I had lost it. There would be a little (HUGE) voice in my head screaming “COME BAAAAACK!” as all my Credibility packed it’s bags and walked away because of my affair with that blasted COW….ardice. (more…)

Enter: New Year’s Resolutions!

This resolution was S.M.A.R.T.!

This resolution was S.M.A.R.T.!

Nothing fascinates me more around this time of year than to hear all the promises being made, and wondering which words were changed from the last time they were made a year ago. “I’m gonna work out” changed to “I’m really gonna work out”! The inclusion of the word “really” was the missing link the year before, and must be the reason it didn’t work out… Pun intended.

Let’s be honest. Your resolutions are probably not going to survive. Life happens. You won’t want to admit it now, but if I posted this in 6 months to check (maybe I’ll do something like that), you’d realise you’re not doing what you had set out to do, and even if things have changed, it wouldn’t be the way you planned.

I’m gonna give you a 3 REASONS WHY YOUR RESOLUTIONS WILL MOST LIKELY FAIL! Yes, I said FAIL! And I’m sure there are far more than just 3 reasons… (more…)

There are many ways I could structure this post. I could opt for an analytical approach, or a rant, or a commentary. Or I could just write. So I choose to write, about not only what weak leadership looks like, but also its impact on those who are submitted (“subjected” sounds better in this case) to it. In many ways I’ve witnessed some of this first-hand – dare I say in my own leadership ability – and it is shocking to see what it produces. I warn you, this post is dense. (more…)

I’m a little frustrated with myself! Great opening line to a post! There will be no pictures, only raw letters today. This post is dedicated to everyone, including and especially myself, who let excuses get in the way of their Dream!

It annoys me so much to watch talented people (yes you too) waste their ability because of some fear or whatever. Now, I’m a Christian, and in my circles, the excuses border on amazing! “I’m just being humble” is one good one… Hello? Jesus hit the WHOLE WORLD, and is STILL doing it!! Maybe your definition of ‘humility’ is flawed. It’s not the “ability to blend in and do live invisibly” like we’ve defined it, but it’s the basis upon which we do anything. Being noticed is not a sign of pride… It’s a sign of being noticed! Whether it’s for something great or stupid, people are noticed all the time. If what you want to do will result in some notice, that doesn’t mean you weren’t humble, it means people found it worth noticing. If they talk, well then unless you’re the one telling them what to say, you’re not some diva in the making, you’re worth talking about.

What about this one: “It’s not the right time”. Just great! You’ve just confessed to having in your possession some kind of device that gives you specifics about when you must “become something”, or when to take advantage of an opportunity. I swear if you have something like that in your pocket, I will be jealous! Nobody has the “right time” written into their DNA. All that everybody has, is TIME! As in, right now! As in, today. As in, HELLO! It is ridiculous that we have this thing called a brain, and we decide it needs breaks, as if we were over-using it in the first place (not!). Nothing on this Earth can give you a reason to wait for your Dream to come true. The only things that can take time are the processes towards your Dream happening, but they are part of the Dream! The only time that is truly bad for any kind of attempt, is when you’re dead! When you die, it is guaranteed that you won’t get anything done!

How’s this one: “I’m not ready”. Well whose fault is that??? You’re “not ready” because you’re probably not doing anything to be ready. I used to think I needed to read a bunch of poetry before I could write any. And yes, it does help to expose yourself to as much as you can. However, exposure is not what grants you permission to act on something! I went to one poetry event, heard a few poets, and it was decided! It didn’t take months, it didn’t take years, or many books on style and technique, it took a little kick, and I responded to it!

What is a “little kick”? It’s a moment of inspiration. It’s a place where you feel “I want to do THAT as well”. It could be a dream you had one night, or something you heard, even a movie (ever notice how movies that highlight creativity just make you wanna do what you saw?)… whatever the “little kick”, you have to note that it isn’t a permanent source of inspiration/energy! Basically, it will dissipate, and will no longer inspire you after a while when left alone. If you don’t act on it, you can never be ready. Readiness is for those whose mindsets and actions are aligned with a purpose. It’s not even about knowing everything there is to know, it’s just simply being in the right mental position to respond to opportunity!

Oh wait, you’re “shy”? Is that the problem? Unfortunately, there’s no cure for shyness. Yes I said it! It’s not something that “gets better”, personally I don’t even know how it exists in this world. In fact, I think it’s a device we’ve come up with. Shyness is the ability to look at yourself, and be absolutely blind to what you can do right, for the sake proving some imaginary statistic that you will mess up whatever you put your hands to. Shyness sees $99.95 and says “I’m 5 cents short of $100… I’m broke!” So it doesn’t spend any money! Shyness will ignore your talents, and make you look at failures you haven’t even committed yet.

In short, shyness is the worst form of perfectionism you could ever live with! You should RUN from that description ( just make sure you run with your head up and shoulders straight! Need to see where you’re going.)!

It can’t allow any mistakes, so it makes you do nothing. Huh?? Yes, because of that earlier statement, in an even shorter form: Shyness makes you stupid! Of course I had to hit the nail on the head. I was shy to say that, I wanted to say “makes you do stupid things”. That would’ve been more politically correct, but I realised being polite is the reason people aren’t honest anymore with each other, or themselves. We say “I want to be humble” instead of saying “I’m crap scared of how people will respond”. We say “It’s not the right time” instead of saying “I’m anxious about when to do this, and I really don’t have full security right now”. We say “I’m not ready” instead of saying “I’ve missed opportunities to grow in my ability, and even more, to expose it, and all those times have made me feel less sure of myself”…or even better, “I’ve been lazy with my time”!

The only way to beat all this is to JUST DO IT! Just start working on that Dream, Start that blog, get out that pen and write a poem, talk to someone about painting classes…what the heck just start painting! It’s a business? Ok, before you even talk about money, how about defining what you want to do first? How about talking to people who can encourage you in your journey for clarity on your vision. The money issue, comes AFTER clarity. Don’t worry about things you shouldn’t worry about yet. When it’s time, then it’s time.

The world isn’t actually watching you as closely as you think they are. Nobody pays attention to mediocrity! If you’re scared of criticism, then what you’re really saying s you’re scared of doing anything, because the only way to avoid criticism, is to do nothing!

You will attract attention the moment you do something different. Get over it.

You will be told some negative things in your journey, or even worse, receive some praise (to all you pessimists). Get over it.

You will have times you’re not sure of anything you’re doing. That’s part of life. Get over it.

You might fail…many times. Get over it.

Oh and last thing, when you succeed… GET OVER IT!

There’s too much at stake with your life. Some people will get their “little kick” from watching you do well. Don’t deprive them.

Don’t deprive yourself.

Don’t be shy!


This beach is just shells of its former self!

Today I said to myself “I haven’t written a poem for ages, I should do one right now”, only to find myself staring at a blank page for 30 minutes. Then toying with a few words, and deleting them. Then remembering my blog from a little while ago “The Ebb and Flow of Thought”.

In the post I basically said it’s ok for your mind to have times when the “spark” isn’t so “sparkly” (not in those words), and that we shouldn’t always fight to be in a “Flow” frame of mind when we’re in an “Ebb” and vice versa. This is ringing so true right now for me and poetry. There’s a reason I haven’t written poems in a while. I’m just not consciously aware of it yet, and that’s okay. Something’s happening in my mind sub-consciously, and I won’t fight it.

So tonight, I am satisfied to not have a poem ready for posting sometime soon. The “poet” in me is experiencing a definite ebb. A receding of energy. It’s a two-way process however, and the ebb cannot exist without the flow. Plus, it takes a receding of the waters for treasures from the seas to be revealed. I look forward to that!

I’m at peace with that.


He sat right next to me in class
I can’t believe I forgot him
Maybe the times I spent learning
Caused a temporary blinding.
Break times he never did too much
Unless in my games I was losing
He always seemed to be present at such times
And that presence was always brooding. (more…)

Her face is hard like an ancient palace
With lines that tell tales of the ages.
She barely moves as though she were
A great monument that all have gazed upon
And admired.
She has raised her children,
Her children’s children,
And would dare face another generation.
Signs of her busyness reduced to a quiet shaking of the hands,
A reminder of her present absence in control.
With a body that has fed nations and heroes,
Dried to the point of recession. (more…)

At some point in my life, I noticed a few traits within me that I never really liked seeing from anyone else, yet they were alive and well in my own mind. I saw how I sometimes treated people and would later say to myself, “Why did I do that?” with much confusion in my heart. I would be insulting, degrading, and extremely harsh in my remarks to some people; not being able to handle incompetency, or lack of understanding. Now, I must say that I’m already a pretty blunt person (as some of my posts may portray), and I believe in ‘saying it like it is’.  Of course, that was my excuse.

Unfortunately, doing what I did was not the final nail in the coffin of my realisation.  What really got me thinking was how other people responded to the way I was.  I noticed a few traits within them as well.  On the one hand, they did what I asked them to do; completing tasks, or learning a skill I required (demanded) of them. Yet on the other hand, they resisted me in most forms of relationship outside the tasks at hand. They were afraid of me. It is then that I reached the conclusion that even though the work was getting done, it wasn’t out of people being productive, it was because I made them do it! They weren’t inspired, innovative, energetic, or even happy… They were just jumping because they had to…or else! Their incentive was not progress, it was survival. They weren’t trying to please me, they were trying to appease me.

What was happening here? I wasn’t a leader… I was a manipulator. I thought I was in control, and I was right; just not in control of me. I controlled everybody else with my temper. And so it is with all ‘manipulators’. They become gods demanding sacrifices at their altars ‘or else’. That ‘or else’ can be different for everyone, but in my case, it was “or else I’ll tell you how terrible your performance was…and you know i do that well…because I tell it like it is!” Who wouldn’t want to avoid that?

Truth of the matter is, I probably got it from somewhere. We all did. Wasn’t it our mom who said “clean up your room or else…”? I’m sure you were in the room with me when dad told us to pass our tests with flying colours, or else he’d lock up all our toys. All of these seemingly minor occurrences were the seed-bed of habits and thought patterns that would probably change the way we acted, especially when we were exposed to the extreme forms of them. Parents or siblings that showed capacity to abuse us, got us into “abuse avoidance mode”. That abuse could have been verbal, physical, or emotional; but when we knew it was coming, we did everything to avoid it…including doing well! Or else dad got angry (and we always knew what that meant), or mom would be sad and cry and complain about how we don’t appreciate her. It was all a form of manipulation, disguised as parenting!

A manipulator puts a person/people in a place where they are no longer doing something out of their free will, but out of fear. Not only that, a manipulator messes with your whole concept of incentives. Your rewards aren’t personally motivated anymore, because when you’re under a manipulator, survival is success! Manipulators think people love them, truth is, people are scared of them! They are masters of deception, because they get you to think you’re motivated, but actually you’re anxious! What they do is very similar to some torture techniques (OUCH!), where all they offer is relief (from the negative emotion they’re inflicting), as an incentive for co-operation. Yes they can reward in better ways, but they make sure their best form of motivation is your escape negative emotion.

They make brilliant leaders!
They’re usually go-getters (slave-drivers)…
Motivated (highly strung)…
Focused on the vision (abusive if you aren’t)…
Produce excellent results (get what they want)…
Goal-oriented (resulting in loveless conduct)…
And are usually very clear on what they want (or else!!!).

It's YOUR fault this is poorly done! Why can't YOU get it right? What's wrong with YOU?!

If you manipulate like this, I bet people talk behind your back about your flaws more than they confront you… I bet you keep discovering that people are scared of you… I bet you defend yourself when someone highlights your mean tendencies… I bet you would’ve used “accuses you of” instead of “highlights” in the previous statement… I bet you have fewer friends than you’d like… I bet you’ve justified it with how well you’re doing… I bet your successes still don’t cover how you actually want to be more approachable… But I bet you keep sabotaging/undermining that desire with your bad temper!

Those are just the aggressive manipulators! These are the ones that lash out at people, usually a boss (because they are bossy!). People run from them in fear of their random volcanic eruptions…which leave these dark clouds of ash over everybody. You probably work for one, cos with them all you worry about is “I hope I don’t make them angry…” because that’s what they say all the time. They love lines like “I’m getting angry… I’m very disappointed… I don’t understand how you could do this…” I’m sure some of you know a few of those, and none of them is you. You may be right, but there’s another version of the manipulator: Passive.

The passive manipulators are just as bad as the aggressive ones. Same M.O. They put you in a position where their emotions become your master. But they are soooooo clever about it.

Ever meet a person who just seems sad all the time, or has many bouts of depression? Ok maybe you know a lot of people like that, but ask this question: Ever find that you can’t say anything negative to them? Or you have to be really careful about how you confront them? Or have you found yourself almost having to compliment them much more than anyone else? When they’re around you, you feel this need to cheer them up, or make them feel part of the group? Know anybody like that? If you do, then you know a passive manipulator!

The trick is the same, but the expression is different. These manipulators leverage the opposite range of emotions to aggressive manipulators. They’re already low, but make you feel responsible for it! Passive manipulators don’t have the ‘fear factor’ like aggressive ones, but they are quite fearsome in their technique. All the questions I asked two paragraphs ago, are ways of finding out whether someone is passively manipulating you, or if you are a passive manipulator. Usually the goal for someone like this is attention. They want to be seen, or heard, or taken care of, or have things done for them. Encountering someone like this over time, you’ll hear more about their struggles than their victories, and you’ll find yourself trying to cheer them up all the time.

With the aggressive, you fear the blow-up; with the passive, you fear the break-down. Whichever side it is, it’s wrong.

I read an article in Psychology Today that really helped me see this in myself and others. The wording used to describe this manipulation was this:

People who can’t control themselves, control the people around them. When you rely on someone for a positive reflected sense of self, you invariably try to control him/her.” – David Schnark

When your feelings, anxieties, and insecurities are always out of control, they probably control your relationships. You teach people to put up with you all the time. You have to be right in the argument to assert yourself/Wrong in the argument to justify your lack of self-esteem! It’s not fair to the people around you, and it undermines you completely. Manipulation is scary, but so common, because it is common for us to have little control over our emotions, or their manifestations in our character.

Manipulators (speaking to myself as well), you must learn to control yourself! Self-control is a priceless gift to all those around you. Nobody said you can’t be angry, just don’t manipulate people with it. It is YOUR JOB to sort through your emotions…nobody else’s. So refrain from putting that responsibility on others. Stop telling yourself that “they make me angry!” That is the biggest declaration of dependency you could make. You’re not really in charge in that state, your emotions are…and that’s not the best for you or anybody else.

What we need is to decide that our emotions won’t get the best of us, and those around us. It’s not something that changes overnight, but it changes! Really that’s all you need to know… That if you embark on a journey of self-control, you WILL change for the better. Nothing is stopping you, well, nothing except your habit of submission to these habits. You’ve taught yourself to be a slave to your emotions, and now everybody else is! It’s what we grew up seeing, and believing was the best way to do relationship. The only reason it ‘worked’ in those we saw doing it, is probably because you were manipulated into thinking that!

Manipulation starts to end when you think of others more than yourself… When you realise that your style or personality can actually learn new tricks like listening before blowing up, or not blowing up at all… When you learn to speak encouraging words to yourself, and allowing others to affirm something already within you: self-belief. Let people be themselves around you, and where they falter, teach them how to be the best they can be…not how to meet deadlines!

i-Manipulate… when i have no control of myself.


Popular Train of Thought

It is interesting to note what people would define ‘life’ as. We even have phrases like “Life happens”, “That’s life”, or the popular “Lessons of life”. It seems that most times, life is what happens around us, or what happens to us. Events take place and are placed in the category of ‘life’; parents treat us a certain way, and that’s ‘life’; the place we grew up in is a segment of ‘life’.

Often I wonder when and why we determined that ‘life’ was everything that happened outside of us. I don’t dispute that our experiences are ingrained within our minds and for the most part motivate our actions. However it just seems a little off that we define this thing called ‘life’ through things that may influence us, but are not us. Think of it this way: a man named Fred has a car accident, a terrible one. He develops a fear of driving because he might be in another accident, so he decides to take public transport and taxis. When people asked him why he doesn’t drive anymore, he says “Because I of the accident, I didn’t want that possibility again. It’s safer this way.” (This is actually a true story for a few people I know)
Something clearly happened to him, that happens a lot around us, and from that event, he chose a way of living that he believed was a good enough response.

Now, every time you ask Fred, you’ll hear about the accident, and how terrible it was. Most times you ask people how they ended up in the place they are in, they’ll tell you about what happened to them growing up, or with a friend, you’ll hear about their “accidents”. The events have shaped their lives, and indeed this is true for many of us. However, I’m of the mind that life is not what happens around us or to us… Life IS US!!!

Life is what takes place within  you as you face what happens to you. Life is the decision you make when you hear a certain phrase, or go through a traumatic period. Life is you saying “I will never…” or “I will always…”! Life is your heart’s response to the environment around you. The feelings you have, the thoughts, the inner scripts that play in your mind when you go about your day, these form life. The events are just influencers of life, they are not the entirety of life.

When life becomes about the events, you’ll notice that you take less responsibility for your response.  If you asked Fred why he never drove himself, he’d tell you about the accident, and elaborate on how bad it was…but you’d never hear him talk about the Fear he had and that he couldn’t deal with it. The accident was an influencer, but Fear was his response, and the decision to take public transport was based on the Fear, not the accident. I hope you see what I’m saying. Life is the internal activity that responds to external elements.

Now, if these external elements are just influencers, then they can also damage us. I’ve read many times how the body has this natural ability to heal itself; that it basically does almost all the work of restoring itself after injury. 
When you break a bone and put on a cast, the  cast just keeps the bones in place so that the  body can do what it’s supposed to do. Some medications do the same, by promoting the body’s natural reflex to a disease or instability. I bring this up, because I wonder: if the body can heal itself (albeit sometimes with help), then can the human heart/mind do the same thing? Stuff is happening to us all the time, and some of it brings us to the conclusion that something’s terribly wrong with life, and therefore ourselves.

If our bodies come hard-wired with this ability to restore themselves, do our minds come with it too? If someone has been dealt a bad hand in the way they grew up, what ‘cast’ can we put on their mind that would promote brokenness to be mended, the positive overcoming the negative?

Unfortunately, because of background, or negative influence, we develop scripts that can destroy our lives, and dictate every single decision we make. No longer is it just the external influences, our very own subconscious becomes an enemy, poisoning every experience with that negative script! Leading to a decision that just takes us deeper into pain, breaking us even more.

But what if there were words we could speak over ourselves, exercises we could do to train our minds/hearts to overcome these events, and still make a decision for the good of our lives (and even those around us when we have families). What if Life could heal itself? It’s all over nature, with trees overcoming harsh weather or surviving fires, plants naturally taking in negative carbon dioxide and filling the air with positive oxygen for more life to grow. It’s already happening all around us!

Successful minds, have this knack for beating the equations of brokenness. Some of them coming from destructive backgrounds, and yet achieving so much in their lives that many would look up to. They have a way of seeing the possibilities, more than their past. They can still create dreams when they should be having nightmares! What would it take for you to adopt that kind of thought pattern?

I’ve understood that some people are more aware  of their possibilities than others. Some people, just don’t know they can live better, believe more of themselves, or achieve greatness in any way. The external elements never provided them with those possibilities. Yet, one trick was to find those possibilities in any way shape or form, even if it didn’t come from their own experiences, then learning to believe that those possibilities could be their own. Never an easy task, but it’s just one way.

Can your Heart heal itself?

Can your Heart heal itself?

I’m not going to say I know all the answers, but I’m definitely looking for them. Life is what’s within us. If our bodies, which house this life, can heal themselves, then I truly believe there is a way for Life to heal itself within us as well. Any broken bones need a cast, or else there’s a risk that they set badly. I know another kind of ‘set’, and that is the mind-set! How do we promote its proper setting in the case of brokenness? I’m sure I’ve covered some ideas in this blog before, and I’m positive there are many more ‘heals’ for us to experience within us.

It’s a high-speed chase, to be Hot on the ‘Heals’ of Life! It requires a great ability to be self-aware. Knowing your emotions, and being aware of the decisions you make in a situation, the feelings that go with these processes, and understanding when you’re dealing with either a bad experience, or even worse, a badly set mind!

The journey is immense and requires massive accountability to self, and those we love…but it’s a journey worth taking.

The Maze of life is full of dead-ends. Some stay there and become what the environment dictates, but some choose to turn around and seek a new path and determine life for themselves. To be a success you’ll have to take responsibility for your actions, but when Life is defined by what happens around you, it’s harder to take that responsibility and own the life you live.
However, when Life is what is inside you, your essence, your being…then making great choices – and even dealing with poor ones – becomes something within your grasp!

Live the life you chose, not the one that your past had planned for you!

And even if something has gone wrong, Life has some healing mechanisms in place, but you have to apply the right ‘cast’ for them to work in your favour. Maybe the ‘cast’ could be positive affirmation, the memory of a success you achieved, a picture you’ve kept, or even the words of someone who believed in you. Whatever it is, it will help you ‘heal’.

Are you hot on the ‘heals’ of Life?


Hands up if you’ve ever been called ‘lazy’? You see, you aren’t alone. Now, hands up if you actually put your hand up while reading this, and realised you’re sitting by yourself and could look a little silly? Ok, now we’re talking. That word ‘lazy’ is not a rare word. I hear it everywhere, you hear it everywhere, we might even hear ourselves call our own lifestyles ‘lazy’. That word is not a simple set of activities (or lack thereof), it’s a judgement. It’s one of those strange words we’ve come to use very often, but still has the potential to decide how you live! It’s quite a serious word. So what does it mean? And even more importantly, what does it mean today?

Firstly, it’s interesting to note that it’s one of the ‘Seven Deadly Sins‘ (of Catholic origin), and is called ‘sloth’. I love sloths! They are such funny animals, they just hang in trees…literally hang from branches, and move so slowly it would be two years before you realise the thing’s movement is probably just an optical illusion…but that’s besides the point. ‘Sloth’ was the term used to describe a person who neglected the use of his God-given gifts. This was characterized by someone who spent many hours idle with little to no activity.

So that sounds like a pretty good definition for me, you have a body, with abilities and energy that could utilised for many different things, and yet you willingly refuse to take part in any activity. Okay, pretty good start… We even went Catholic on you guys!

HOWEVER… Today I’m seeing quite a different trend taking place. It is almost as if the term has morphed over time (as it is with most words these days), and it is a lot more difficult to call somebody ‘lazy’ in the classic sense. Now, it’s as if somebody turned the tables on us. Leisure has become something to achieve rather than avoid, and being on your feet all day doing constant menial work, is something to get away from! What a turnaround! You’re successful when you don’t have to work so hard, and still make a killing at the bank.

Not only that, the ‘lazy’ kids out there, are playing video-games – which are actually quite intellectually stimulating – and the really special ones, are playing the sports they love, or getting involved in the creative activities they enjoy! Today, a young boy who loves to sing, and spends hours on it, may be termed as lazy… Or the kid who’s passion is basketball, has many sections of the day just dedicated to shooting hoops and dribbling wherever he can find space. That kid has also been called ‘lazy’ by those who may look down upon him.

In a sense, some of the classic definition has remained intact, as some of the values have remained the same. Today’s world still treasures hard work as before, and things like study, and good honest work to earn a salary are revered as good qualities in a person. What has happened is that there’s been a proliferation of activity that didn’t exist 60 years ago. There wasn’t any Facebook, or Playstation 3, even worse, the internet was just beginning to take shape. With media also bringing in the ‘reality tv’ generation, it’s possible to get onto television if you’re in a competition to win a million dollars (Survivor anyone???). I’m sure this was not factored into the definition of ‘sloth’ way back when!

What I’m trying to say is that there’s a lot of hard work involved in being lazy these days! That kid with the NBA dream sweats all day, but how many people would tell him he’s wasting his time? The singer will struggle to learn the techniques that will make him better at his art, but we all know there’s only ONE winner on Pop Idols!

It’s crazy isn’t it? I’m now lazy if I’m sweating over something that isn’t deemed as hard work. No matter how much I love it, it could be useless in the eyes of those I look up to! That video-game that required all my intelligence to figure out, learn, understand, and play through, is pointless because it hasn’t led me anywhere in my life. Hey, being lazy has become one of the hardest jobs on the planet!

Honestly though, I like the ‘sloth’ idea. It involves an element that is normally not factored into defining laziness: the aspect of one’s gift. As I sit here and type, it would be easy for someone to tell me I should be crunching numbers instead, but this is my gift! This is one of the things I was given the potential to achieve. I could do anything else at this time of day, but I’m doing this…utilising my gifts!

Yes, there will be many things you do in your life that you may not enjoy, or may never want to do forever, but you will always have your gifts. Whether they pay your bills or put a smile on your face, they are always there. They may get rusty, but they never get old (think about that!). It may very well be that your laziness is the job that you’re in. Oops! Okay, let me qualify that: I’m not advocating mass job-resignations. I’m just saying: Don’t neglect the things you have a passion for, if they aren’t your job…and especially if they can help others! I don’t write for myself, I write for you.

Yes, today’s world presents us with many more opportunities to use our faculties, even pointless opportunities sometimes, but it conversely means that you also have many more ways of being lazy! As you go on with your life, remember that…………………………………………………..

…………………………………………..Agh!! I’m too lazy to finish this!