Loss of Hope = Loss of Life

Posted: April 14, 2011 in Dark Corners
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Really? Is the title is true? Yes it is! The Maze knows it very well. You probably do as well. The loss of any desires for the future, will kill off the flame of your heart and keep you on pause, or even rewind! The truth is that our hopes actually do a lot to shape and structure our worlds. Their effect on invisible things like health, joy and peace of mind is so real that we can’t ignore the power of having Hope.

Hope is what we look forward to in our lives. We “hope to have a degree”, or “hope to be married with children”. It’s the image we aim for, and work towards. Sometimes, Hope is not something we actively plot out, but is just a picture we hold on to, giving us light on a dark day, helping you overcome hard times by painting a picture that is still a possibility beyond whatever pain you experience. When we embark on anything, having Hope keeps us engaged and active with life. In other words, it’s a great motivator for whatever it is you’re doing.

Living in this earth requires us to have Hope, because each day could be a brush-stroke in your life’s painting and you want to be sure that there is still something beyond the immediate that helps paint the picture more clearly. Should failure happen, or some unforseen event, Hope keeps you centered and…for lack of a better word…Hopeful!

Hopelessness is different from Depression. They may seem similar, but there is a definite difference. Depression refers to the feelings of sadness, loss, anger or frustration that become so intense they interfere with your daily activity over a period of time. Hopelessness, however, is tied to having no expectation of success of good in your life. When used to describe situations, they are believed to be incapable of solution or management. Some people actually live this way, being rendered immune to remedies or cures due to their Hopelessness.

A study was done on  “Hopelessness and its Effect on Cardiac Rehabilitation Exercise Participation Following Hospitalization for Acute Coronary Syndrome“, and the results were that patients who experienced Hopelessness were less likely to continue with their rehabilitation. It’s also very interesting to see how Depression affected someone’s committment to the program. Predictions would say that Depression decreases participation, but amazingly, Depression actually increased participation.

What does that mean? Well, it’s just a study done in one setting, yet it shows something very important. To lose Hope has much farther reaching effects on a person than to lose their happiness or joy. That’s because Hope connects you to the future, and the future gives purpose to today. If you lose your connection to tomorrow, then there’s no point in growing, there’s no point in learning, or understanding, there’s no point in reaching, there’s no point in the entire present tense!! Think about that for a second.

You lose Hope, you lose your sense of living! It’s simple and yet intensely hard-hitting! Hope is the ingredient thrown into your tragedies that has a ‘bounce-back’ effect… It can turn any sad story into super-story… It gives you strength to endure the pain of growing because there’s a reason for it all. It connects today to tomorrow. It can validate experiences that otherwise would be pointless and worth forgetting. To lose that Hope, that painting, that vision, that wish, that dream, would be to kill off your life-support!

Every breath you take leads you to the next one, every day, ends to make way for the next one. Life itself is one big canvas of Hope. Once that realisation is lost, you enter a downward spiral of denying life’s natural Hope-giving power. You have to ignore the processes taking place around you that are ushering you forward, and eventually you will convince yourself that there is no tomorrow. That can only take you to one place.

You can figure where that place is for yourself… Read the title!

Over.

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Comments
  1. I always believed that hope was tied to meaning and one’s search for meaning in their lives. Viktor Frankl was a great researcher who created logotherapy to help those identify meaning and a sense of direction in their lives.

    Good perspective!

    Cheers,
    David
    http://www.allthingsdepression.com

    • The Maze says:

      Thanks David
      Meaning is what I like to call “Today’s Justifier”, it makes Today relevant to Tomorrow…keeping the journey alive.
      I am glad you found the post worth reading, and am thankful for your attention. I do hope you find more in these words as time continues.

      Will be sure to learn all I can on these subjects from your blog!!!

      Sincerely
      The Maze

  2. redacted for fear of reprisals says:

    i am sitting here without hope and your right i cant see the point of taking medications that are there to heal me – what’s the point? I have a choice do i die now or suffer more and die later in more pain?
    it would be better for me and everybody else if I was not here any more, at least i get to suffer less and to say goodbye. I suppose the risk I carry is that if i tell people they might try and stop me, to force me to live and suffer for their benefit. because they cannot see the ultimate end point where i am suffering and they are ignoring my suffering, because they don’t want to deal with my death.

    • The Maze says:

      Hey there Red (clever name by the way…had never encountered “redacted” outside of the dictionary)
      I have to say I’m more at pains here as to how to respond…especially on this forum. I would love to continue this on email if you’re willing.
      Please get back to me on overthemaze@gmail.com
      I do have a whole lot to say, but that’s not important. Your pain is real.
      I may be a total stranger, and you may be totally pranking me, but I’m not willing to take that risk. please if you can, email me… overthemaze@gmail.com

      (also redacted for fear of rejection)

      I hope this blog wasn’t just a voice for you, but a door.

      The Maze

    • Michael says:

      Is anybody still out there? you got my attention!

    • Michael says:

      hope to hear from you again, I can really feel your despair, it touches me

      • The Maze says:

        Hi there Michael. I haven’t blogged in a while so I hadn’t seen this.
        Truly this was something very distressing to read, and I’ve tried to reach out with no response.

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