Fear of Failure vs Daring to Dream

Posted: March 10, 2011 in Deeper Things, Motivational Moments
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Fear has a crippling effect on any individual. It can silence you immediately, and even permanently. On top of that, it has this strange ability to morph your entire reality into some hellish existence! I’m telling you, if Fear was an ‘X-men’ character, it would be the one that made you say “they have cool powers, but THAT guy freaks me out completely!” (actually I think there is a character named ‘Fear’ in the X-men! Glad its just a comic.) It can consume you so much that what you see is not what actually is. That’s a scary thought! For a bunch of people – maybe even you – the lives they’re experiencing are the product of their own fears!

The problem is that Fear is a great distractor! It’s the equivalent of that really hot looking guy/girl you see at the mall, who gets you dreaming of all the ‘possibilities’, then you realise you’ve wasted your time and missed about 100 more possible possibilities! How does Fear achieve this? It plays out all these scenarios of failure, falling, rejection, destruction or even death! Even though the last two are pretty similar, Fear makes them look different! You start defining in your imagination, just how bad it could get if you don’t pass, or say the right thing, or wear the right clothes, or make the right decision… You’re filled with all these ‘possibilities’, but none of them have any bearing on your life  right now. Fear blinds you to the biggest possibility you have in front of you: SUCCESS!

This is where Dreaming comes into play, as it also brings with it, ‘possibilities’. But these are of a different kind. Dreams paint the sort of pictures that fly in the face of failure, laughing out loudly (loling) as it fades into the horizon of reality. When I speak of Dreams, I speak of those desires in your heart that just excite you. That’s one of the cool things about them, they excite us, because they involve only us! You see, Fear brings in all these agents and ingredients that are all beyond your control (eg a person who doesn’t like you, or the environment you’re in), but a Dream, is ALL YOU! You being a success, you making the right decisions, you achieving your goals…everything in a Dream is determined by, and revolves around… you guessed it: YOU!

You make your success… You make the right choices… You unlock the potential within… You find the strength to make things happen! With a Dream, it’s all on you! Sure, there are relationships that help along the way, but only if you are in the right state of awareness. There will definitely be situations you have no control over that will affect you, but you have to make the right decisions about how you move forward. When you have a Dream, not even the hardships of life can excuse you! As bad as they can be, they only leave behind memories, not disasters!

Dreaming is quite daring, because life has so many loopholes to get through, unexpected turns, and even people who don’t like you. It’s daring because the world offers ample examples of people who want, but don’t get, those who desire, but don’t achieve. However, with all these facts, where would we be without Dreams? It was someone’s Dream to go to the moon. I mean, who dreamed up skinny jeans anyways? Everything we touch and use is someone’s Dream come true.

And there is the place many people fail to arrive: a Dream come true.

You have a responsibility to your Dream. Like a good parent, you need to nurture your Dream, allow it to grow. You even have to change things about yourself to accommodate this Dream. That isn’t easy, but it is necessary. Fear works against these processes of bringing a Dream to life, because if it’s a distractor, then it’s also a delayer. Sounds a lot like ‘Delilah’, you know…the chick from the Bible, who cut Samson’s hair, making him lose all his strength?? THAT Delilah! Watch out for that chick, cos she’s HOT! Fear will sap you of your energy, putting all your creative juices into failures and not successes. Your Dream requires focus, priority, forward thinking and flexibility. You’ll need to be in it for the long haul my friend. As you do what is necessary, your Dream rewards you, opening up doors, birthing relationships, and teaching you lessons. You mature as you grow in your Dream.

Mature Dreamers. Those are the ones whose Dreams come true! They may experience Fear, but don’t allow it to delay or distract them.

Those who fear, don’t dare!

I dare you!

DREAM!

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Comments
  1. azureceleste says:

    Change perceptions. Understand what you are capable of and dream beyond your imagination. Then work super hard to make it happen. I concur. 🙂

  2. Thumiso says:

    Maturity is the acceptance of responsibility – Rightly put, Dreaming is my Responsibility! As I grow in my Dream, I mature. My Dream rewards, opens up doors, births relationships, and teaches me. I guess it’s a no brainer then, Dare taken!

    Let’s make our Dreams come true The Maze! Good stuff!

    • The Maze says:

      Thumiso, you already know it intrinsically! Fear of failure robs you of the chance to express what’s in you to express!
      Eyes on the prize.
      Hands on the tools.
      Heart on the desire!

  3. Tshepiso says:

    Having the contrast of fear againt dreaming, illuminated my understanding of the importance of dreaming, yet also maturing IN the dream.

    Nurturing the dream* Forward thinking*Flexibility*

    Excellent thoughts, practical and attainable, in the challenge to walk the the path of dream.

    Thanks Over*

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